Online Dating: How to Write a Great First Email and Meet Singles

Getting Started

So where to begin? Why not start with the three men or three women that interest you the most? Or even the one guy or the one girl that really stands out. Start by sending a short, friendly email and see where it goes.

Here are a few internet dating tips on how to write a great first email to other singles online:

• Keep your first email short and polite.
• Start with a friendly greeting, like Hi (guy or girl’s name), or Greetings (guy or girl’s name), or even the more traditional Dear (guy or girl’s name).
• Next, write one or two sentences about something that caught your eye in the person’s profile, preferably something that you read. While it’s always nice to mention someone’s cute smile or their sparkling eyes, you definitely get bonus points if you write something that shows that you actually took the time to read the guy or girl’s profile.
• Next, write a sentence or two about something that you both have in common or a trait that you have that the person mentioned that they’re looking for in a partner.
• Finish up with a polite closing and your name. Something like Cheers, (your name); or Best, (your name); or With kind regards, (your name).
• Check your spelling. Always.
• Let your personality shine! And use humor if that’s your style; just keep it simple because sometimes humor doesn’t translate as well online as it does in person.
• Give compliments but only when sincere and personalized.
• Repeat as necessary.
• Enjoy yourself! This is about meeting new people and having fun, so keep the pressure off.

Until you find your soul mate or the best date ever or someone you want to be exclusive with, we recommend that you repeat the above steps weekly with three new men or three new women. New people are probably joining your relationship site daily, so this will ensure that you keep up with who’s new on the site and in your area. And once you get the hang of it and are writing first emails in five minutes, you can also email more people and sign up with additional internet personals sites to expand your options. You never know where or when you’re going to find a date or fall in love!

BONUS TIP: Keep it fun and increase your chances of finding your soul mate by expanding your search every once in a while. Search in a new area for local singles. Broaden the age range of people you’re looking at. Or meet some interesting men or women who are an inch or two taller or shorter than you usually date. Another fun option is to do a few searches at a niche dating site. Niche dating sites offer you the chance to meet singles in a community geared towards a particular lifestyle, ethnicity, religion, hobby, interest, education level, field of study, handicap, etc. Some of the most popular niche internet dating sites are personals sites geared towards black singles, Jewish singles, Asian singles, single parents, Hispanic singles, singles over 30 and 40, Christian singles, and gay & lesbian singles. What’s nice about many of these niche sites is that they offer you a whole community with many opportunities to meet single men and single women online and off in addition to web dating. Community features may include offline parties and events, travel, message boards, video chat, chat rooms, general dating advice, internet dating advice, online magazines, and blogs. The Internet Dating Guide offers some great reviews and introductions to a variety of these sites.

A Couple of Things Before You Start Meeting Singles

One of the most important things to remember when you dive into online dating, or dating of any kind, is that dating online and around the world is about meeting new people. You’re not walking down the aisle. You’re not planning for your engagement party. And you’re not bringing your date home to meet your parents. (Yet.) In other words, keep the pressure off when emailing singles for the first time and enjoy this fun opportunity to connect.

Also, always remember that the other singles on your matchmaking site are in the same boat as you – they’re single, they’re dating, and they want to find men and find women who are interested in dating, romance, relationships, marriage, friendships and more. People may be at different stages in their life and internet dating process but they’re all looking to find singles and connect -- just like you.

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